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This is the first bi-weekly e-zine intended to focus primarily on the issues ofdomestic violence against men and divorce/child custody issues. We welcome news ofgroups, websites, and people in the men's rights movement worldwide. We encourage newwriters and commentary. For all the news all the time, visit our buds http://www.mensactivism.org in the USor http://www.angryharry.com in the UK.__________________________________________"A woman needs a man like a fish needs the river."__________________________________________OUR WEBSITE IS UP! That's the BIG news for this time! On the site, you'll find the current issue of theJournal, links to many orgs and infoThe website is also the virtual home of the Men in Crisis Prayer Circle. Rev. TrudyMackay, who administers the Circle, hopes that a web presence will encourage more menand their families to take advantage of this freely given help.In future, it will also serve as a place for those articles that are too big for theJournal, yet are not on any website. Those of you, who have hesitated to submit worksof masculist literature due to the limited scope of the e-mailed Journal, now have aplace to publish and be read! E-mail us at dsrtlite@mindspring.com for writers'guidelines.The links section is by no means comprehensive yet-although we've got links from the US,UK, Canada and New Zealand, there are plenty more of our homies lurking out there! Ifyou or your group would like to exchange links, drop us an e-mail with your URL, and we'll be glad to comply. The essential philosophy of the Journal is that we're all in thistogether, helping each other out in whatever way we can. Here in the desert, this is theway our dads, husbands and sons take care of business. They get their houses and carsfixed, keep an eye on each other's kids, and ultimately take care of each other.Everybody wins. With the help of volunteers who've been online since the Internet wasborn, we are aggressively promoting the website in some interesting, creative ways. ;>)We've also put up Chapter One of "Friends to the End." "Friends" is the first-ever novelwith a theme of DV against a man. When Richard Hayden, aTacoma Washington DV counselor read it, he went online at the Abused Guys Yahoo Club andsaid, "Everybody needs to read this book!" Here's the URL: http://www.desertlightjournal.homestead.com/~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~A couple is divorcing. They are fighting for the custody of their child. That day incourt, the judge asks the mother why the child should stay with her.The mother answered, "Because I am the one who gave birth to him"The judge then turned to the father and asked him the same question.The father answered, " Judge, I ask you a question. If I go to a vending machine to buya coke, I put a coin inside and out comes a can of coke. Does the coke belong to me orto the vending machine?"Contributed by: Len MiskulinChairmanLIVE BEAT DADS UKwww.lbduk.org~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~*********FATHER'S DAY EVENTS*********~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ARIZONA-by David HamuArizona Fathers' Rights is focused on staying positive and active.I thought I would share the spirit and encouragement of what is going on in Arizona.Arizona Fathers' Rights is holding a FATHER'S DAY PICNIC this Father's Day at TempeKiwanis Park in Tempe, Arizona. Tempe Kiwanis Park is an excellent location with asmall man-made lake and a nearby indoor wave-poolwhere FATHERS ARE FREE on Father's Day (Hey, that's got a nice ring to it!)We are expecting 105-degree temperatures on Father's Day, so we are going to have acabana with a portable misting system and some water toys for the children. We arehaving a Potluck lunch, but Arizona Father's Rights is providing many of the staples,including: Burgers, Hotdogs, Soda and the fixin's.In addition, we are negotiating with a contractor to have a blow-up trampoline thingyfor the kids. It promises to be a great day for Arizona Fathers. We will becelebrating fatherhood in all of its forms and we will be thinking of our brothers, ourbrothers' children and the rest of the members of the movement throughout the countryand the world.For more info contact, David Hamu> dave_hamu@yahoo.comwww.arizonafathersrights.orgMISSOURI-- This Father's Day, the American Coalition for Fathers and Children will beholding our third annual fundraiser at the Missouri Botanical Gardens (www.mobot.org).It is one of the finest botanical gardens in America. Our fundraiser has become thebiggest father's day event in St. Louis.We are having Johnnie "B. Goode" Johnson, (www.johnnie.com), the father of rock and rolland his band. Johnnie is where the song "Johnnie B.Goode" came from. He was way aheadof his time, performing funk and other forward-looking styles long before they becamecommonplace. At the concert, we will be raffling off 10 "father's day 2001" baseballs autographed byOzzie Smith. Cardinal's sportscaster Al Hrabosky will be on hand to give away thebaseballs. Meanwhile, our "Bridges for Children" protest on June 5th will be held on at least 3bridges around St. Louis, and possibly 4 bridges. A lot of people have become quiteinterested in what the courts are doing and are jumping in to participate.We encourage everyone who has not yet become a part of this historic NATIONAL event tosign up now so you can wake up your community and make your presence known to those whoneed to be a part of your group. You can sign up at www.acfc.org/bridges.htmOur "antifamily judges" billboard has been up for several months now, and the calls keepcoming in. It truly is our "Swiss army knife" in challenging the system while helpingfolks find us. For Membership information call 1-800-978-DADS or see ACFC's homepagesat: http://www.acfc.org~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~BREAKING THE PINK BARRIER~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Women As Abusive As Men, Beacon Hill Will Be ShownStudy of Gardner District Court Is RevealingBy Ed OliverMay 17, 2001Steve Basile of the Fatherhood Coalition will testify today on Beacon Hill about theresults of a domestic violence study he has conducted over the last four years.According to Basile, the study shatters the myth that men are mostly batterers and womenare mostly victims who require special protections.The research involved an examination of nearly 400 Restraining Orders issued by GardnerDistrict Court in the year 1997. Full text at:http://www.massnews.com/5171women.htmhttp://www.massnews.com/janedoe.htm for more on the Jane Doe org.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Students protest publication of ad in newspaperBy Mason StockstillDaily Bruin Senior StaffAbout 30 students rallied in Meyerhoff Park Friday to protest an advertisement publishedlast month in the Daily Bruin, which they described as "hateful misinformation."As about a dozen Bruin staff and editors watched, (Ed. Note-that's 2.5 protesters perjournalist ;>) protesters called for the paper to print a retraction and apology for thead. Full text at:http://www.dailybruin.ucla.edu/db/archivedarticles.asp?ID=15546&date=5/21/2001(Hint: the Bruin stood firm!)~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~FREE DOWNLOADABLES!!!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~There is a wealth of information available online for free. Some are books, but thereare scholarly papers, pamphlets and other things. You can get a real education on themen's rights movement without ever leaving home, or spending a dime. Start here:"If Men Have All the Power, How Come Women Make all the Rules?" by Jack Kammerhttp://www.rulymob.com/index.htm"Sex, Lies and Feminism" and "The Head of the Medusa" by New Zealand author Peter Zohrabhttp://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/6708/books.htmlErin Pizzey's landmark work, "Prone to Violence"http://www.massey.ac.nz/~KBirks/gender/viol/ptv/ptv.htmA veritable fatherload of info is available from the National Coalition of Free Men-someis free, some is not.http://www.ncfm.org/liter.htmContact Tom Williamson direct for the most concise paper on DV I've ever seen. ThoughTom holds an MS degree in Sociology, it is written in language that is easily understoodby anyone, and it says many things that need to be said; often missing from such works.The $5 price is worth every penny! It's not on the site, so e-mail him and tell himTrudy sent you!<ncfm@liii.com>The Activist's Handbook, from the Just Cause Law Collectivehttp://www.lawcollective.org/library/ah/What Everyone Should Know about Feminist IssuesThe Male-Positive Perspectiveby Rod Van Mechelenhttp://www.backlash.com/book/sexism.htmlIf you come across other books online, let us know!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~THERE IS STILL TIME TO CONTRIBUTE YOUR NEWS OF FATHER'S DAY EVENTS FOR OUR SPECIALFATHER'S DAY ISSUE! SEND YOUR E-MAIL TO dsrtlite@mindspring.comOr snail-mail the DesertLight Journal at P.O. Box 1252 Yuma AZ 85366Deadline Tuesday June 11 Midnight -7 GMT~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~IMPORTANT WORKSHOP FOR DIVORCED DADS, NON-CUSTODIAL MOMS, AND SUPPORTERSSUNDAY JUNE 3RD, 2001Event: One-day Interactive Workshop Entitled: "What's Missing When Father's Are Missing?: How to Bring the Dads We Need to the Children we Love"Location: University of Toronto's Hart HouseBRIEF DESCRIPTION OF EVENT: "What's Missing When Fathers Are Missing?" is a specialone-day interactive workshop lead by best selling author Dr. Warren Farrell.Dr. Farrell will facilitate a discussion based on his best selling book 'Father andChild Reunion' on How to bring the dads we need to the children we love.Participants will have an opportunity to increase their understanding of the rolefathers have in the family and the challenges that separated/divorced fathers deal withwhen their marriages break-up. As well, participants will discuss and develop strategiesto help "put fathers back in the picture" both at the individual family level and at thesocietal level.The workshop will open with keynote speaker Senator Anne Cools (not yet confirmed) whowill deliver a presentation dealing with the barriers and obstacles separated/divorcedfathers are faced with.Rick NeagleDirectorFathers Are Capable Too (F.A.C.T.)E-mail: RickNeagle@hotmail.comDirect Line: 416-964-2838~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~"For those of you visiting from the East Coast, the band does not take regularlyscheduled breaks. It just waits for the rolling blackouts." -- Announcement made at thewedding ceremony of Ed and Lisa Maass in Sonoma, Calif.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~We leave you with the 'Zonie blessing--"May you always have a full tank ofgas and underwear that doesn't ride up!"Trudy W. SchuettPublisher http://www.desertlightjournal.homestead.com/©2001 TWSchuettThis e-zine may be shared or forwarded provided the entire publication is sent.To subscribe to the DesertLight Journal, send a blank e-mail with "subscribe" in thesubject line.Commentary and contributed articles are not necessarily the opinion of the DesertLightJournal. We strive to include all views in the emerging men's rights movement, andtherefore cannot be expected to agree with everything.